They had 7 children and only 2 of those 7 married other South Asians.The rest, including my grandmother, married and had children with Black Jamaican men.Interracial couples also have to examine the stereotypes that they hold between each other. Today’s society is a “pick and choose” type of place where we are use to having lots of options.
Statements like “Oh, she’s the type that would date Black men.” or “You’re the type of Black woman that White men wouldn’t like.” is just projected negativity.
No one demonized my grandmother for this, because she was born and raised in a country where 90% of the population was Black.
Here in the United States, yes, we are blessed to have a diverse society with large, vibrant communities of different cultures. 5 years ago, I automatically saw anyone else who was dating interracially as my ally…or at least a kindred spirit. While I’m not sure if this is bred by jealously or insecurity, the end result is ongoing challenges to the integrity of your own relationship. Other Black women who date interracially (including my BF’s ex), seem quick to make judgement calls on the quality of our relationship (in spite of having very limited information available).
The downside to that however is people grow to believe that in order to insure the survival of your culture or community, you have to marry only within that particular community. Many websites and blogs that seem to celebrate interracial relationships are really just a front to perpetuate very narrow views on why interracial relationships are “ideal”, “preferred” or “superior”.
Well at the end of the day, no romantic relationship, interracial or not, is the same.
I should start off with an apology at the negative tone of this post’s title; but I believe that people should know the negatives upfront, get past them (if they want to) and then go on to pursue their dreams.